What are some signs that a therapist may have poor boundaries with their clients?
15.06.2025 15:13
Disclosing feelings, fantasies, and experiences to the client in ways not related to the work the client is engaged in.
Session-expressed curiosities about client details not relevant to the therapy.
Sense of competition with persons who are important in the client’s life.
Failing to mention the client in supervision/consultation, out of fear the supervisor/consultant will advise return to ordinary healthy boundaries.
Struggling with fantasies of deeper connections with clients, whether sexual or parental or other intense or intimate relationships beyond psychotherapy.
Routinely going over the time limit with certain patients, compromising the time for the next client.
Why can’t my wife just accept the fact that I’m going to cheat?
Obsessing about clients outside of work hours.
Eager anticipation (or anxious anticipation) of the next session in ways that distract.
Serious disappointment when the client cancels a session.
Would you raise your children like your parents raised you?
Frequent phoning or texting of clients to “check up on them and make sure they’re OK.”
Off the top of my ancient head:
These items can happen fleetingly, briefly, in any therapy, but if they’re frequent, it’s definitely time for the therapist to get some good, solid supervision/consultation.
General Introduction to Boundaries from Panahi Counseling: